Through the eyes of Children
Our environment and community as we know it, is slowly returning to some kind of normality.
But amongst the chaos, we can overlook the impact all these changes are having on our children.
Through the eyes of children, their behavior will present itself in ways of;
- bad choices; and
- display emotions like shyness, anxiety and fear.
Being absent from kindy has turned their routines up side down; and choices of environment and what is available to do, have all changed.
Helping children manage new situations all starts with the mindset.
How do you teach resilience to children and create resilient kids ?
It’s quite simple. We break it down by starting with one easy tool on how to regulate and normalise emotions.
After all, everything is temporary and emotions are just energy in motion.
It’s learning that all emotions are okay, but it’s how you move through emotions and pivot to a better feeling thought.
Step one: Creating healthy boundaries. Routines develop confident children and minimize anxiety.
Step two: Emotions and how to normalise them
Step three: Focus on what we can control and pivot mindsets through a Grit and Growth mindset.
We do this in the Snakes room, through song, story books and activities.
Singing this on a daily basis embeds the positive notion that you can do anything you set your mind to.
Children are learning to evaluate their negative thoughts when faced with challenges.
If you would like to sing at home, this is how it goes;
“My brain is like elastic, it stretches and it grows,
Even when things get tricky, i will have a go!
I won’t give up,
I’ll take a risk,
I might get all upset.
Mistakes don’t mean that I can’t do it, it just means I can’t do it yet”
A growth mindset fosters motivation, resilience and persistence. Children who have a growth mindset are more likely to keep working hard towards a goal.
This storybook is written by Julia Cook.
It teaches children in a relatable way that their brains can grow stronger with time and effort; like building muscles. The more we use and build muscles the stronger and bigger they get.
It sounds simple, but the effects of believing in themselves without limitations, are profound.
Here are 4 ways on how to instill a love of learning and grow their brain;
- Help develop your Childs internal motivation. ( find a subject matter that is relevant to their life)
- Show your child you value learning. (by intentionally learning something new)
- Learn along with your child. You are your Childs first and forever teacher. (repair things together, map out a trip, do a jigsaw…this is learning at its best)
- Plan a learning Vacation. ( Plan a road trip, take tours along the way, learn about the area you are visiting)
The Invisible bucket
It’s our human desire to be seen, feel heard and know that what we say matters.
When we don’t feel seen, heard or that we matter, our hearts feel empty and heavy.
The invisible bucket is a metaphor for our heart.
The concept of bucket filling is to demonstrate how actions and words impact on others, it enhances resilience, ownership and inspires children to achieve internal happiness.
This concept fosters encouragement, acknowledgment, praise, manners, gratitude and the art of appreciation.
- Encouraging a person to give it another try after a mistake fills their heart with love. Berating them with put downs depletes their self belief and their heart feels heavy.
- Saying thank you for someone’s help, brings a smile to their face and fills their heart with joy. Staying silent affects their self worth because they don’t feel seen.
- Listening to someone while they speak, fills their heart with love. Not listening affects their self worth. They feel they are not being being heard or what they say doesn’t matter.
When our bucket is empty, it contains few, if any, positive thoughts or feelings.
When our heart feels empty our emotional discs will also be dirty . We will be easily activated by small things and express emotions in ways of sadness, negativity, insecurities, nervousness, anger, depression, anxiety, fearfulness and even make yourself physically ill, through toxic emotional stress levels.
When you experience any of these feelings, it’s easy to believe that life is too challenging and that nothing you attempt will be successful.
An empty bucket can affect your behaviour and cause you to express your emotions in a way that empties the buckets of those around you.
Teaching children at this age the foundations of what we say and how we say it matters, develops emotionally intelligent, resilient adults.
That’s all for now from Mr John, Miss Coby and the Snakes (Jom-Gwongs)